@Nammu Wow, that's a lot of drama over just bringing someone a package! Is the lady who got upset okay now? Sounds like things are hard for her if she reacted that way to a comment about her gesture of bringing over a package. I would absolutely hate to be caught in the middle of that like you were.

@LadyShadow I'm glad you have your church and your faith. There are things we can do about our actions, like you say being a bit of a masochist with things in your life; I'm sure it starts with baby steps. There must be workbooks on co-dependency at least though for other things CBT might help? I hope things work out for you relationship wise and that your faith contintues to grow and helps you along the way.