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Originally Posted by Blue_Bird
So therapy today was focused on the overspending. We went over the triggers and the history of it and stuff about my past. Like growing up with my mom was rough cause we were homeless on and off for most of my life and we never had any money. So part of why I might overspend now could be related to the lack of money growing up. Now that I have access to my own money and have a stable environment I end up overspending when anxious or stressed etc because I’m one trying to relieve the anxiety or stress with the dopamine rush or two I’m trying to make up for the lack of money/purchasing ability when growing up. Money scarcity. And I never had a good example of how to budget growing up because my mom sure as hell did not know how to budget the little money she had was spent on beer or cigarettes.
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I also overspend, usually on fun (non alcoholic) drinks or snacks for a dopamine hit sometimes. For me, my spending tends to be worse when depressed than when manic. No one ever taught me how to budget, My mom is very good with money, but she never taught me anything. I just watched her/heard her complain about living paycheck to paycheck because of all of the spending her husband at the time did.
Also, I get what you're saying in a different post about snacking being connected to living alone. I can be the same way. My new space doesn't have much storage, so I can't have a lot of food at once, so that should help.