
May 14, 2025, 05:00 PM
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Member Since: Aug 2021
Location: USA
Posts: 261
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Originally Posted by Have Hope
So, I had met a woman by chance because we were both sitting alone at separate tables next to each other at a restaurant. She began talking to me, we had a good conversation, and I thought she seemed cool. She gave me her number and I gave her mine, since we decided to start walking together in the early mornings. We live relatively nearby one another. Well, the first time we were supposed to walk, I had blisters on my heels and had to cancel. The second time we tried to schedule, she had to cancel. We had decided to walk on a Sunday at 1 PM. She asked if I could walk in the morning, and I couldn't because I had a house guest. We had decided on 1 PM, but she canceled the day of.
Then, for the third attempt, she became very pushy with me and I was taken aback.
I had told her that I couldn't walk until the following Friday morning, a week away. She didn't like that and asked why I couldn't walk sooner. I repeated to her again that Mondays and Fridays are the best mornings for me to walk because I work from home on those days. I also told her that on this particular Monday, I wasn't free. So we scheduled for Friday.
I sent her a Thurs. night to confirm and received no reply. I sent a second text at 6 am this morning again to confirm, and no reply.
Geez. I am so sick of flaky people!
I am also very turned off by her pushiness.
She didn't like my lack of availability or schedule, and now she's blowing me off.
Well, screw it then. There goes a potential newly budding friendship in my newly budding life.
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That's the exact reason why a lot of people don't like taking risks. So I've been reading through this whole thread and can ID with much of what has been shared. But this post got to me because that's mostly how you're going to meet your next friend , by circumstance. You took a chance and I was surprised when she gave you her number. You took a risk by talking to her , and another risk by exchanging numbers. WOW ! I figured , boy you got lucky ! And then bam , when you explained her behavior over really something trivial , my heart just fell to the floor. I'm like , are you kidding me ? But think of all the horror and drama you avoided by her bailing out. You should feel lucky ! But the point here is that the only way you can start to change your circumstance is to take little risks , at first.
I'll always remember a saying someone once told me about " putting yourself on the path of probability " , or something to that effect.
Best wishes to all.....
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