Such a wonderful thing your doing. I don't have much advice im afraid, as a new mom... but I can tell you I was addicted to drugs before Jeremy came.. well, as soon as I found out I was pregnant, about a week or two after I BECAME pregnant - i stopped everything.. and have been clean since.
Im so sorry that you have had to watch these beautiful children grow up with disorders because of the choices their birthmothers made. For me it was easy, an easy choice, but I am sure it is not for others.
I am so much better off now.
I wish you the very best.