Here's one idea for me:

Listen deeply to what I want and not respond to him with something that I think is what he wants or expects me to (be able to) say or do.

I'm thinking of about a month or two ago, T suggested to me when we were scheduling the next session, that if I couldn't find a time the following week that worked, I could always skip a week. There might have been a time once when I would have read meaning into this that wasn't there--that T wanted me to see him less frequently--and I would have agreed to skip a week even though he never said that's what he wanted. I would have done this because I thought it was what he wanted, that I thought he thought I was capable of seeing him less frequently and so should try to fulfill his expectations of me, not because it was what I wanted. I was really proud of myself that I told him no, I didn't want to skip a week, that I really liked coming each week and that I needed that now. He was fine with that. I felt empowered that I was able to do that.