Thanks, its one of my favorite jokes. I recently dreamt about my neighbor who had it on a tshirt.

Another friend, who is/was in AA, used to talk about disengaging - like our need to disengage from our families when they are toxic. Im not so good at it - my mother is ten years gone and im just finally starting to feel free. Going no contact helped, but her passing helped more. You are kind of stuck there. You know the biblical saying, a man cannot serve two masters. As long as you are embedded, can you disengage?