Have you and your H actually SPOKEN to someone from the social security office? Not just relied on numbers whether they are posted on the SS website or not? Because you really really REALLY need to before your H takes this step and you lose benefits and subsidized housing. Each family’s circumstances are different. Is Victoria drawing SSI on her own or are you claiming her as a dependent? You need to speak to someone from the Ticket to Work office as well. Have either of you taken all these steps to the point of exhaustion? Best would be arranging an in person meeting; if you are scared of meeting with social security yourself I know they have knowledgeable advocates you can meet with.