Your daughter needs to ask that her mother be ordered to give her notice and not just show up and demand. Please tell your daughter to file a report so this sudden visit and demand immediate attention is unacceptable.

Your wife is engaging in predatory behavior and it clearly is triggering pts symptoms where neither you or your daughter feel safe. Your wife was probably under the influence and because she had another person she decided to pull her toxic selfish crap.

These type of experiences should confirm to you that having her out of your life is best for your mental health. Reporting this so it’s on record is a must.