Dear Friends,

My wife and I will be getting divorced after 17 years of marriage. My wife’s desire to have a food truck have taken over her mind, so much so that she is willing to separate.

We have a middle school aged child and my wife does not consider her in her decision making.
We’ve had issues off and on for the whole relationship. But the past two years have been very challenging. My wife has used our home as a commercial prep kitchen. And caused considerable damage to our kitchen.
She’s left the gas stove on twice when nobody was home except for my young child.
She’s spent so much money on the business and then tried to tell me that the spending was for our own groceries.
The final straw was last week, she wanted me to go and get a home equity loan so she could purchase a food truck. Approximately $100k
I decided at the time to go and do the application with her. A joint one.
A couple days later I ran errands and picked my kid up from school, when I arrived home she hadn’t done anything, was just laying on the bed. I said I’m going to take the dog out do you think you could make our kid something to eat.

I took the dog out and came home and she was in the kitchen, seemingly annoyed that she had to make food.
Later than night she told me she wanted a divorce.

We were supposed to go and finalize the loan the next day but I decided that it would be a bad idea for me to co-sign a loan if we are divorcing.

I asked her to reschedule the appointment so we could discuss a plan. My plan was to obtain a legal document stating that when the house sells she would be responsible for the Home equity loan.

She was furious and called her parents, they apparently told her that she should divorce me and that they would fund her food truck..

She also said that she’s moving out in June.

It’s been a tough year, having lost my father unexpectedly in February, during which time my wife has shown little to no empathy whatsoever.

I’m pretty down right now but I won’t give up.