Ok, so I need some serious advice. I have been with my current bf for over a year now and while I have tolerated his outbursts and such, I just don't know how much more I can take. I am currently a Psychology major with my Bachelors in Child Psychology and am currently working on my Masters and have talked with several people about this subject yet nobody really knows what I should do. My bf has indicated that he was told by a doctor that he has ADHD when he was younger and he took medications to calm him down, but over the years he stopped taking it and does not have any intentions to speak to anyone about it or go back on medications.

I would never ask that he do anything that he does not wish do to, but it is getting to the point where his attitude and behavior is starting to affect our relationship and I don't know what to do about it. By this I mean that when he gets verbally abusive when he does not get an immediate response to a question when I am busy or when I remind him that he shouldn't order a new phone from online when he can't afford to pay for it. He seems to have a really hard time focusing on one thing at a time as for he is constantly up and down or in and out of the room. This is becoming really hard for me to deal with and is in a way frustrating because we can't even do something as simple as watch a 30 minute tv show without him constantly sending text messages to his friends, getting up and going to his computer to check his e-mail or even making a phone call. We have discussed this issue several times and I am very patient and understand that it is very difficult for him to sit still, but at the same time it seems any more as though he just automatically blames everything on his ADHD.

Does anybody have any suggestions as to how I might help him to control this or how I might better cope with things? I know that he doesn't want to take meds and I understand and respect his choice, but what can I do or is there anything I can do? I love him with all my heart but it seems as though we are drifting apart and never spend any quality time together.