Dear @
Toyotaman, I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I do agree with Have Hope that, based only on what you wrote above, it does sound like divorce may be for the best. I went through a divorce myself around ten years ago, though we did not have a kid and much less financial entanglement than you. I am proof that you can get through it and come out the other end grateful for having faced and borne the pain.