I think what you're noticing is a big difference between how you perceive and relate to the world and how others do and how they understand you.

It's a complex interplay. If you can, try to step back and look for patterns. I think this, or something close to it might become apparent.

I can only really speak to my own experience when I finally became aware of this big gap/difference. I had been trying to offer those around me ways into myself with the idea that they might appreciate where I'm coming from and what I'm dealing with.

Of course, they neither could nor wanted to understand, so they used my "weakness" against me and did so very effectively.

So, I changed the only thing I could: myself. I stepped back from trying to be understood and focused on enjoying the parts of my life that resonated with me.

I'm not completely withdrawn, but I choose not to engage in situations that might expose me to conditions that are bad for me, especially emotionally.

I've compressed years of experience into a few sentences here, so this was not a quick fix, and I continue to work on it.