Well, guys....

Last night my hubby called me on his break. There was tension on the phone, I wont deny it. He asked me if I was still pissed off. I told him that my feelings were hurt more then anything. He said "WHY"? I couldnt believe he had no clue as to why. Anyway, I told him that I wanted him to go to a therapy session with me and he flat out refused. He said that he would not, under any circumstanses attend a session with me. I asked him why. He said that it didn't matter why, that he was simply not going. Well, that went over like a ton of bricks. I hung up the phone and continued playing my scrabble game.

He called me at work this morning to ask me if I was still mad. I told him once again, my feelings are hurt. I was more calm on this phone conversation so it was easy for me to explain to him what bothered me. I told him i was sorry about the dish and not putting it away before bed. I also told him that the comments that he made to me made me feel like he wasn't supportive or wasn't aware how hard i have worked to get where I am. I told him I wanted an apology. He said for what. I said for hurting my feelings. He said...SORRY.... I told him that I didnt want an apology that wasnt genuine and if he didnt mean it I didnt want it. I tried to also explain to him that before this happended to me we would fight and days would go by and the fight would be forgotten...but not resolved. So when the next fight rolled around, the previous fight was still being brought up. I told him that I didnt want it to be that way anymore. I told him that I wanted to talk about the fight and to work it out so it's resolved and we can move on. He told me that he didn't mean to say what he said to me but he did say that he felt underappreciated. He told me that he works very hard around the house and feels that no one takes notice. I saw his oint of view and I felt bad that I don't give him the thanks he deserves by keeping the household together.
You see my hubby does so much for me and the kids. He is a MR. MOM. He works the night shift so his days are filled with laundry, cleaning, cooking and whatever else. I work the day shift so my nights are filled with, dinners, baths, homeowrk and quality time with the kids. My hubby and I see eachother for 5 hours Monday-Friday so there is that added strain on the relationship. We try to maximize our weekends together because that is all we really have.

I guess, talking it through with him not only opened his eyes to my point of view but also opended my eyes to his point as well. I feel that this was a small step in the right direction. Who knows...I guess time will tell.