Why do you want to forgive them? You can or not that’s you choice… my partner has an avoidant attachment disorder and if she wrongs me and I decide to forgive her then that’s my choice….
People who have a healthy mind set make their own choice and if they are with an avoidant they set boundaries
I’m not sure if I can help but I am more than happy to listen and share my experiences and findings

I’m not sure how to find this page again so I might not come back in
If you want to talk. My name is Paul