Hi Teressa my name is Paul.
I am also new here.
My partner has an avoidant disorder and because of the lack of communication and pushing away I have become very knowledgeable with this disorder.
If it helps…. You and I can talk…. You can talk to me about your fears without fear (sorry to say this) because you are not connected to me…. I can help you with your confusion (all avoidant are conflicted and confused but they might not admit it).
This could be worthwhile and if not you haven’t lost anything
Let me know
Paul