I was so excited to be getting married, but after talking to my sister and kids, I am sad.
Sister thinks he is too young for me and doesn't make enough money (although it more than what I make and I have a good job) and I should date others. She thinks it's a mistake. She is my best friend and I respect her opinions. sigh.
Teen kids are still dealing with the divorce, although ex and I have been separated for over 2 years and are dealing with dad getting married last week. They keep saying I haven't asked them if it was ok... although it's been more times than I can count. One doesn't want me to ever marry, says she is not ready. Other says she wants me to be happy, but ... (???? never says what) Other is older, isn't saying much, but just doesn't seem like she is enthused about it.
And I still haven't told my parents. (btw- I am in my 40s) No one is good enough for me in their eyes.
This whole things is causing so much stress on me. I want to be happy, but everyone else is unhappy, which makes me unhappy.
Fiance is excited to be getting married, he has wanted to marry me for over a year now. He would be happy just going over to the court house today.
We plan to be getting married within the next 6 weeks... after my kids come back from visitation. I just want a quaint wedding, just us and family.
I think they are going to resent it because it will be right after they get back. They wont get to help plan. I have been trying to talk to them all week, they leave Monday. I am running out of ideas and time.
Postponing - I already have once. We were supposed to get married Sunday. But things just are a mess. We are on a time limit because his daughter will be going back home in another state after that date. The no telling when we can have her again as this will only be the 2nd time in 4 years she let him have visitation. It's bad enough that his son wont be there because mom wont let him come... (court battle now). I also feel that my fiance will see it as I don't want to marry him. He has already thought that in the past because I said we were not in any hurry. He gave up on me once.
Buying rings... Took kids with us. Didn't go well. Thought they would feel included. His ring, we found the perfect one (not traditional, but it's perfect and unique).. then the price went way up because it was marked wrong. Had our hearts set on it. Mine, having a difficult time finding anything within our budget and that will look right once sized for my small finger. sigh.
Ex wife who is bi-polar is driving us crazy.. either refusing visitation or calling to ask if she can help with the daughter clothes for the wedding. ?
Tick, tick, tick BOOM is how I feel my happy day is going to end up.
Why is this so difficult? I just want everyone to be supportive so I can be happy.
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