hon do you love this man? if so think of this. your kids are pretty much grown. they will be leaving the nest soon. I told my kids when they did not even want me to date that they would not always be around and I did not want to grow old alone. you have to do what is right for YOU. no one else. everyone will always have their opinions on your life. it is YOUR life. if this man makes you happy then to heck with everyone else. do what is right for you two! good luck hon