I’ll never ever loan anyone money again. Nothing good ever cones from it. Anyways, what happened is that I booked a hotel for us for an upcoming concert.

I paid for the tickets. I wanted to go so badly, I offered to pay for the tickets. It’s my early Christmas gift to her too.

Anyways, her share of the hotel for 2 nights came out to $366.

I booked it about a month or two ago. I politely asked her to please pay me back less than half of that recently & she got upset with me.

She told me that she is struggling & that she needs to support her husband as he doesn’t make much money. She doesn’t have any kids & she lives in an inexpensive area too.

She makes six figures a year. My husband is financially abusive & she knows that too. I don’t make much money.

He stopped putting money in our joint account & my cards are maxed out.

I have awful credit too that I’m slowly rebuilding. So she acted like I was bugging her.

We went out to a concert last night & I asked her to pay me back. She didn’t want to discuss things then. So I respectfully dropped the issue.

She was also mad at me for ‘ignoring’ her at the concert. She was mad that I was on my phone a few times. She didn’t say anything then.

It was way to loud to talk. She was being really annoying by asking me to move constantly.

We had good seats. There were no other available seats there. The place was packed. If we would’ve looked for other seats, then we would’ve been stuck standing.

My feet hurt bad. I needed to sit down. The security guy told us to sit there too as we had trouble walking up the stairs There was no elevator there.

So they found us ground level seats thankfully.

She was also annoyed at me when I asked her if she could help buy my train ticket. I left my credit cards in the Uber I took unfortunately.

I took stuff out of my purse & I left the wallet on the seat. My wallet is black & so are the seats, so I didn’t see it there.

She was irritated, but she bought my ticket for $17. I was hurt as I was in a bad situation & she acted like I was inconveniencing her.

I wouldn’t treat her like that if she needed my help. I would’ve paid her back for everything too asap if she wanted me to pay her back.

I deducted everything from what she owed me from the hotel bill.

She accused me of picking a ‘fight’. She’s done this before btw. It’s like she gets super defensive when I try to bring up anything that makes her uncomfortable. It sucks.

I think that she might have an avoidant personality disorder. She rarely calls, texts me, or intiaties contact with me.

Then she asked me if I want to end the friendship. Wth? I said I will if she keeps disrespecting me like this.

Unbelievable! She is usually not like this. I’ve known her for over 5 years & this behaviour is reprehensible & hurtful.

Why would she gaslight me like this & get so upset over being asked to be paid money back?

I can’t trust her anymore. Especially with money. What should I say to her to get her to see that I did nothing wrong & that she is the one with the problem?

She refused to apologize to me & she expects me to apologize to her. Ridiculous!

What is really unfair is that she always excepted me to pay to her back the full amount immediately in the past.

I feel like she is a big hypocrite. Why is she being so rude & disrespectful to me?

I showed my coworker the texts & she didn’t think that I did or said anything wrong.

She told me that my friend was manipulating me & that she didn’t want to pay me back any money. She didn’t think that I was being ‘combative’ either unlike my friend.

Is there anything that I can do to get her to see things from my POV?

Each time she doesn’t want to talk about an isdue, she dismisses me by saying that she’s’going’ through a lot.

I feel that she’s more of a fair weather friend now that I can no longer trust. I now feel like I need to watch what I say & do around her unfortunately as she’s to sensitive at times.

I’d appreciate any good advice or insight into this situation.