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Originally Posted by NovaBlaze
It would be a great shame if you allowed this to spoil your Summer, as horrible as it must have be to have been caught up in this mess.
Having followed your thread for a while now, it seems to me (as an outside observer) that none of the people you mention in your last post have brought any real lasting happiness into your life - only grief. If your goal is to build a whole new life then maybe cutting yourself off from them completely is the best way to go. How can you move onto pastures new with people who are abusive, messy, childish and selfish?
I know it’s easy for me to say this, as I’m not in your shoes, and I’m not the one affected.
Jeff.
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Thanks so much @
NovaBlaze (Jeff). I agree with you. I blocked 3 people on Facebook the other day because of this latest drama - the abuser, his gf, and his best friend who is a woman. And it's ALL because I tried to defend myself and my honor against a bogus and blatant LIE that the abuser told his gf about me to make her jealous.
His gf is totally blind and duped by ALL his lies, and I told her this before blocking her. She told me, well, he hasn't hit or harmed ME physically, so basically, her stance is that it's all Ok, even if he's been physically violent with other women in his past.
UN-BELIEVABLE. She is SO BLIND - and that's exactly how I worded it to her and in CAPS.
She doesn't see yet that just because he HASN'T been physically abusive yet - doesn't mean he WON'T - in fact, he likely WILL, because that's the pattern of abusers. It can sometimes take YEARS for that to happen... and in the meantime, they emotionally abuse. She has admitted to his ex fiance that he's been emotionally abusive - yet with me the other day - she DEFENDED him! I couldn't believe my ears!
So, she's turning a blind eye to all his abuse and to ALL EVIDENCE presented to her from his past loves whom he HAS abused. She's even been shown pictures of broken arms and bruises from his ex fiance. AND STILL she wants to be with him!
NOT MY PROBLEM - ALL I really wanted to accomplish was to defend myself against the abuser's LIE about me, but I did end up mentioning him beating up on past women.
And his best friend, the female that I WAS friendly with? Flat out DENIES that he's been violent, even though I was told by someone who used to be close with her that she knows he's been physically violent with his ex fiance.
I wipe my hands clean of all 3 of them and will avoid them completely.
At this juncture, I feel a little lost. I had been SO happy to find a club I liked, where I liked the people I was meeting. But now? Now that ALL this DRAMA has occurred around this abuser who has a whole ring of defenders? I just don't know.