I am so sorry you are experiencing gaslighting from your own husband! It is beyond maddening, I know, because I've been there with my ex husband. What other abusive behaviors does your husband exhibit? Gaslighting is a part of abuse and is in the abuser's repertoire of abuse tactics. That's why I ask if there are other similar abuse tactics happening in your dynamic with him.

I hate to say this, but in all honesty, the gaslighting does not just stop if you tell him he's doing this to you. I am concerned for you. This is a huge RED FLAG and indicates something far deeper going on.