Background info - belong to a WhatsApp group and YouTube channels relating to my hobby. Husband and wife have separate channels and same support expectations. They've arranged members meeting for September.

Few weeks ago, one member raised an issue which others disliked. Part of problem was language barrier and he wasn't exactly polite. First I knew when he messaged to tell me about it, as he'd noticed I wasn't participating. We chatted about it online and thought dust would settle. Yet to meet him, was planned for earlier this year but mother passed. At moment, only firm opportunity is that meeting.

Knew friend had talked to the husband about situation, but wife contacted me for my "take". Initially, I just made general comments but then she got nasty. Accused me of not supporting their channels and ignoring people in live chat because they didn't speak English. Totally untrue! I got really annoyed and called her a liar, saying I would report her to WhatsApp. Her husband is now making sarcastic comments when I appear in live chat. I've helped them financially in the past but she noticed I'd withdrawn that too. Think I'm being gaslighted....

Friend has advised me to ignore but it's difficult when someone is telling blatant lies. He uses other languages to greet people, but doesn't chat at length. They're obsessed with a rival channel, it rules their lives. I just feel mentally exhausted and disappointed that they've chosen to behave this way.

Have about 20 days to decide whether I want to go to the September meeting as have package holiday booked and don't want to lose more than the deposit.