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Old Jun 13, 2025, 07:06 PM
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Originally Posted by stopdog View Post
For some of us - there is no point in talking or "admitting" anything - it does not help some of us. It makes it much much worse. There was nothing that I told or "admitted" to a therapist about myself that ever made me feel better. Ever. I tried - but every time it was so awful I just felt like an idiot for not learning from the past. So while I accept that some how it helps some of you - please try to understand that there are some of us for whom it is a nightmare no matter the therapist or other person who is being told. It simply does not help anything for us and in fact makes it worse. And it is not because of worry about being judged or what the therapist thinks (the therapist doesn't matter except to the extent they can act like they understand and I think most fail at that -they get paid because they are not real). And sometimes the incessant talking about it, to people like me, just seems to keep people stuck and focused on the problem rather than fixing it or dealing with it and moving on.
I relate to this, yes. If I say it I have to deal with it.

The only time I can remember being really relieved to tell someone something was when I confessed to my mother I’d forged her signature on some school papers (we had to get tests signed) by parents in the early grades, and I forgot. She handled it wonderfully well.
Thanks for this!
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