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Originally Posted by stopdog
For some of us - there is no point in talking or "admitting" anything - it does not help some of us. It makes it much much worse. There was nothing that I told or "admitted" to a therapist about myself that ever made me feel better. Ever. I tried - but every time it was so awful I just felt like an idiot for not learning from the past. So while I accept that some how it helps some of you - please try to understand that there are some of us for whom it is a nightmare no matter the therapist or other person who is being told. It simply does not help anything for us and in fact makes it worse. And it is not because of worry about being judged or what the therapist thinks (the therapist doesn't matter except to the extent they can act like they understand and I think most fail at that -they get paid because they are not real).
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I do understand this. I think something I've gained from a mix of therapy and being on this forum is learning how so many people are just not like me. It's easy to just assume what goes on in my head is what goes on in other people's heads, that others would want what I want, but I've learned it's not like that. Which I think has helped me to both understand others better and interact with them in a way that is about what they want or need, not just what I want or need. Still a work in progress.
I imagine it's an area where therapists often fail, thinking clients just need to open up about their feelings, when it's not the right thing for every client.
Out of curiosity, is there anything that you felt did help you in talking to a therapist?