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Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind
Any unwanted sexual attention we get as a child can cause ripple effects as an adult, so yes, this can be enough to cause big problems in your psyche.
As to if it constitutes sexual abuse .. I would say your brother's actions definitely do .. your mother's are borderline and therefore would depend on the laws where you are (as to how sexual abuse is defined) ..
That aside, it's not so much how it's defined that is concerning .. as much as how it impacted you. Would you say this impacted you negatively? If so, regardless of if the laws where you are define it as sexual abuse or not, it's worthy of talking through with your therapist.
Hope my words help and hope you find closure and peace with this soon. ❤️
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Hello!
Thank you for giving me your time and writing your reply!
Thanks for the points you raised! And to answer your question about impact, I would say that when I reminisce about what mom did I definitely don’t feel good about it all. I hated it when she did what she did, because as a kid and even now I was highly protective of my body and whenever anything was revealed (even when mom would pick sleeveless tops for me) I would feel uncomfortable.
Not sure how that skewed my views on sex and sexuality, but there is something else. My parents never gave me the talk and I had to discover things myself and it lead to a lot of addiction and false or damaged views on sex.
And, I can say this confidently, absolutely hate what my brother did, it definitely broadened my discomfort whenever something similar to what he did happens to me.
Thanks again! It means a lot that you had this supportive tone towards me despite this situation that I have not being terrible.