Lmo,
Hey sweetie, my heart goes out to you and I think your boyfriend is very VERY lucky to have someone like you in his life.

I think you are doing the right thing by not pressuring him into school or the job market because that seems just to big and I can relate to that feeling of being completely overwhelmed.

However, this is not fair on you and you are having to support him financially as well as emotionally. You are living for two and that has to be so tiring and stressful so first, I send you a hug.

It's obvious he is stuck, way stuck and he can't see a way out and it's very scary. He needs help plain and simple. He isn't going to get better on his own. If he could, he would've by now.

Don't pressure him but tell him how you are feeling. Tell him that you love him and the future you want like you have told us here. Tell him that he can get better but he needs help to do that. Tell him what a smart, good, capable man he is.

Tell him that this can't go on because it's taxing on you and you hate to see him waste his life. The only option is to get help. There is help out there and he can get better. I know you are trying to be good and understanding but sometimes us depressed folk need a loving kick in the butt and some direction.

He has no direction but a qualified person can give him that. Tell him that you love him AGAIN and tell him that the only thing you are asking from him right is to make a commitment to you to get help. You will be there for him, make the appts all he has to do is make a commitment to you to go.

After a few sessions he should be in the swing of things and either want to go back or hate it but at least it was a start. Maybe the person he had before wasn't what he needed. Find someone else. Someone who CAN get him to talk.

Just my thoughts. Now for you, take a moment for yourself now and then and try to relax. You more than deserve that.

Heidu

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending. ~ Carl Bard ~