Yeaah i think they threw the RD Laing baby out with the bathwater, more or less. He was in favor of the concept of "crazymaking" and when i was with the family, in the midst of it, i was like oh that is soooo right. But it was just 20 years ago that neglect came into focus, and ACES, and the importance of attachment. I was reading a - THE - book on attachment and it was like reading physics for me. I just could not understand the concepts. Then i finally understood why my mother kept saying, oh they say on dr phil you have to TALK to the kids. That biotch purposely gave me the silent treatment and only talked to my brother, i have the receipts!! On the youtube in my brain. I mean as a CHILD. An infant. Synapses pruned.

ETA - Also - you know i moved in with my mother in my early 50s when my life crashed. She wasnt happy, and my longterm t was probably rolling in her grave. But ya know what? T effin bad. FAFO.