Sister called again.
She said she had reservations about him. Thought he was only looking for a new mother, since I have guided and been there for him in the past. (His parents passed away 7 years ago) I said no, his older sister took on that role. She reiterated that it was my life and she would respect my decision and keep quiet if I choose to marry him. Followed with prodding of questions, which I quickly became quiet.

Okay, love her but... why should I have to explain anything to anyone? It's my life.

His kids are 4 and 5. One is a special needs. but his kids are another story. I love them both and would love to be part of their life. Visitation is set, ex wife just doesn't think she has to follow anything (has no respect for authority)... she is already gone against the judges direct instructions for visitation... but she'll have to answer to him when they go back.