I have read your post and it sounds eerily like my situation with my partner of 38 years, the latter half of which they were diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder @blueteef - so I hear what you are saying.

My own experience of ending the arguments was solely based on my stopping defending myself against criticism which in some cases was just imagined. I stopped arguing and I did not suffer any adverse consequences. The arguing pretty much stopped or decreased in intensity. I sometimes ave to go to another room and avoid their criticism.

What I discovered is I can do nothing to change others, especially people who have mental health issues like Bipolar Disorder. Often the medicine that keep our loved ones stable need to be adjusted or changed in order to maintain stability with the hormones that direct the brain functions.

I am happy that I stopped arguing and learned to avoid getting angry because getting angry made me feel miserable. I never won an argument that changed my partner's behavior. I am learning to change my behavior and that is making me happier.

Hope you find a way to cope with the situation.

CANDC

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