One important aspect of bipolar is management. I'm not talking about medications or managing the person.

I'm talking about managing oneself as someone with a significant diagnosis like bipolar.

One big part is your relationship with your own thoughts. When depressed, your mind tricks you into thinking everything is awful and not going to get better. Then the opposite, when manic, you think everything's great and you can do anything. Then there's the in-between part: dissociation, anxiety, low-grade depression, and mania, etc.

Then there's energy management. People generally have only so much energy for the day, but we are tricked into thinking it's limitless. When coping with mental health, it becomes more immediate. Look up "spoon theory" to understand what it's like.

Those two things alone are huge, and understanding that they exist is big for your partner and you.

So it's not a matter of making a few changes for you and her. It's a matter of integrating a way of living that embraces our humanness: being interested, curious, empathetic, and engaged. This is the case for both of you—for her, it's to actively engage with herself, and for you, you're already on the road by asking questions.

I know it's not practical advice I've written about here, but these things matter and make a difference in the big picture and longer term.