OMG - so there is a woman I used to be friends with - two years ago I would say. We immediately clicked when we first met. We thought it's because we're both Libra signs. Well, before I knew it, this woman was treating me like her therapist - leaning on me far too much to counsel her through a frightening experience with an ex boyfriend. She would cry on the phone, and I would spend an hour or more counseling her. After a couple of months of this, I decided to set a limit and. I let her know. Well, she didn't like me setting a boundary, so she became nasty in response, ending up with me blocking her and ending the friendship. I determined she is very unstable and looking for a therapist, not a friend.
Well, time went by and we would bump into each other now and again. When we did, she was friendly and would smile at me.
Well, I ran into her last night while out with friends. I walked up to her, since it had been two years, and tried to give her a hug. She flat out said "NO" and put her hands up telling me to keep my distance. So I was like, "really?" And she said "YEA, REALLY", as though I were the bad guy in this situation.
All I did was set a boundary and told her that I couldn't continue talking about her ex boyfriend. And this is how she reacts. So I am the bad guy for setting a limit.
I've read that toxic people don't like boundaries being set. I knew she was toxic after speaking with her for a few months. I knew it. Or at the very least, mentally unstable.
But last night? After she blocked me from hugging her? She then danced around the entire dance floor, coming near me several times as though to taunt me. It was sickening. I felt like it was some sort of weird kind of power play. It was WEIRD.
WTH?????
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