Ok.... I met a new man. New -ish. We hit it off incredibly well. We've actually been talking on Facebook since November, but only just met in person last weekend, for the second time I think. I don't recall meeting him before but he says we've met in the past at a music club we both like.

Well, we had a non-date date last night. We went to a show together. There was attraction and some kissing. We danced and had an amazing time together. We learned more about each other and seem to have a lot in common. He's cute too. A little on the shorter side - he may be 5’ 4" or 5' 5". I am 5' 2" and was in heels making us nearly the same height.

He's cool. I really liked him. Driving home 45 minutes I couldn't stop smiling and felt like something real could unfold here. For the first time since my divorce I've felt this way.

BUT there is the male friend who confessed has a crush on me. I did gently inform my male friend last weekend that I don't feel the same way. Yet he's also under the impression., because I told him so, that I don't want to date anyone right now.

How do I approach the subject with my male friend? How do I tell him I've now met someone I may want to date??? It happens - I wasn't looking for someone - this just came up. What do I do? I have been spending a lot of time with this male friend and will be hanging out with him on Sunday for a show. I don't know what to do.