I must say I've never gotten angry at my children maybe a little mad but not out of control angry. It takes A LOT to get me angry, I have a lot of patience especially when it comes to children. When I do spank it's usually one or two smacks on the hand or bottom, but I mostly use time outs. My 11 year old gets grounding and it's very effective with him. I have not found an effective form of discipline for my 4 year old. Although I got a lot of good ideas from this forum.