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Old Jun 26, 2008, 10:26 PM
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Hey Molly,
I'm really sorry you're feeling this way, especially since I can relate to what you're feeling having been there myself. I'm also in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend is in Germany right now studying abroad (I live on the east coast, USA), so Ive had to do a lot of adjusting to that. When he's at school regularly, he's in the midwest. So basically, he's almost always no less than 17 hours away from me. And call us crazy, but we've been doing it for almost 2 and a half years. It's been really hard lately, though, since he's 6 hours ahead of me, and has a pretty busy social life, while I"m in our hometown, without a ton of friends or a whole lot to do, so I've been feeling pretty lonely and anxious. My anxiety would manifest itself if jealousy and making up outrageous stories in my head about what he was doing, none of which were true. My doctor's actually changed my medication to help deal with the anxiety, so a lot of those symptoms have gone away. I'm also taking an online course and some ballet classes to help with the overwhelming amount of down time I have until my college stars up again in September. But, what I really wanted to suggest for you was to not look at things so black and white -- "I have to break up or I have to put up" which isn't fair to either of you. I hope you're seeing a therapist to help with your depression. And what would really help you would be to find something that you enjoy (I know that's hard when you're depressed!) to take up some of your time and to help take your mind off of him some. The thing is you can't sit and let your feelings stew. I know the world is bleak to you right now. But dont let his love for you be in vain -- he wants you to be happy. If things continue this way, he might start to feel that he can't make you happy and break up with you (thats what happened with my current. Luckily for us, he realized he was willing to put more effort into our relationship than he had been doing the first time around and came back, but not before 6 months of no communication). Join some sort of club or take up a hobby or sport or a class or something. You just need to get out of the house!! Please feel free to PM if you want to discuss anything more -- I've found hearing other people talk about their long distance relationships and seeing that they've gone through similar things (and stayed together!) really helpful. Everyone at PC is here to help everyone, so dont worry about taking up our time, either!

Best of luck!
Ro