The ophthalmologist messaged me again on the 6th, I ignored him.

I noticed that he was looking at my dating profile on sunday. Then he deleted the messages he sent. We got talking when I asked what he had deleted then met up today instead of tomorrow which we had initially agreed. I was wearing my gym clothes, had messy eyebrows and my usual glasses instead of contacts, as I had gone out with my sister and other friend .

He guessed my prescription. I teased and said I felt like he was judging me and that I was too cheap to pay for lens thinning. He apologized for the way he had treated me. That he didn't mean to hurt me. He started to cry about how depressed and burnt out he had actually been with work. That a 2.5h trip seemed so hard which is why he cancelled. Mentally he couldn't do it.

I told him if we were to be a thing again, he had to start therapy/ get treatment for his depression and he had to communicate, that the depression couldn't be an excuse. He said he had an appointment with a psychiatrist this week and that he would .

Compared to the other previous date I went on where I felt uncomfortable for most of it- I felt like I could actually relax with him. I really liked him from and we held hands. ( I was in my early 30s and had never done this with a man before and he didn’t push for more physical contact ).