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eskielover · Jul 20, 2025, 08:49 PM

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ECT is the most effective treatment for major depression according to the NIMH. Does psychiatry promote it? No. It makes them look stupid.
Ask them how and why it works, and they give you stupid looks.

On the other hand, I was treated for 13 years with major depression after having a successful aerospace computer engineering career after that field lost contracts & other companies didn't want to hire someone with a high salary....I had a "mental breakdown". My career had been my escape from my bad marriage but didn't have the clarity at the time to understand how all the pieces came together. Kept asking the psychiatrist how depression meds could help when what I needed was a job not pills. Then I had horrible side effects to the drugs & tgat just made the depression worse.

13 years later, my mom died of cancer, I sold her house & kept that money in MY trust fund & refused to give any of it to my husband. Tried to get a divorce but he fought it so I flew off to another state with my dog, bought myself a small farm with my trust money & walked away from a 33 year marriage. Go figure, my depression & anxiety that was situational went away even though I had stressful times on my own 2100 miles away from where I lived all my life in a new town whete I knew no one....but I was happy & at peace for the first time in my life. The unhappiness & marriage issues had been talked about in therapy but it wasn't until I took action to end that when my depression went away. I did find an awesome Therapist here & she taught me skills to implemrnt & I found I no longer had to fight for everything in my life which was a learning curve for me & therapy helpes. My T also helped me process the trauma I went through when I caught the home care person abusing my mom. But life has become what I always dreamed it should be like & I am surrounded by wonderful people now. The point being is that there are many different causes for major depression that even landed me on SSDI.....but neither meds nor ECT would have worked in my situation cause it was situational & no treatment in the world could fix the situation. It took me taking action to change it myself & get myself out of the trap I was in. Think that is what is so complicated with mental health is tgat there are so many underlying causes & finding the right key to understand what is needed is complex & what might work for one person could make another person worse. It's not like appendicitis.....solution....remove the appendix.

Sadly a lot of times psychiatrists don't take the time of effort to find out the real cause & even therapists don't & sometimes we are so clueless about it too. I didn't realize that leaving my marriage would help me as much as it did until I realized it did. No simple answers & sometimes even for us it is trial & error or trial & wow, it worked