Hello clarityknot, sounds like you kind of had therapy imposed on you rather than having a therapist working with you.

I detect an underlying sadness in your writing. Living for the sake of the children is one way of getting through life but it's not ideal and there needs to be more to life than that. You deserve more than that surely?

As you probably already know weight issues can often stem from sadness, food acting as a comfort, or something we can control and then not. Quite often a psychological thing going on behind it.

I also understand the, well I'm 40 and too old feeling, what's the point and all that, apparentely life begins at 40... so why not have a go?