So far my 11 year old is great. I hardly ground him at all, he gets A's and B's in school, he is the best little catcher in the league and football is starting soon. I can't remember the last time I grounded him sending him to bed early or to him room for a little while has been working. The biggest problem I have with him is his mouth. He talks back a lot, I don't jump to ground him, I'll just send him to his room for about 20 min and then he knows I'm serious and knocks it off. He also is impatient with the two younger ones which we are also working on. My four year old wants to do everything he does and it annoys my oldest (I was the oldest of five and understand completely). I also feel really bad for my four year old (now I can see the other side of it). I can't wait until my four year old is old enough to play baseball (next year!), maybe he'll feel more included, I think that's part of the problem. He wants so bad to be big, I think once he's old enough to be involved he'll settle down a bit (crossing fingers).