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Originally Posted by JaneOnceMore
F turned away from me in the lobby yesterday. It is very unlike her. I feel it is because i was not gregarious, cheerful, charismatic, talkative, and euphoric like i have been for months. We each have to save ourselves from drowning. The effort depletes us so that we have nothing left over for anyone else. People are attracted to me when i have love to give. People withdraw from me when i need love. My emotional pain repels people.
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Yes, it's surprisingly common, @
JaneOnceMore - lots of people withdraw when you're the one that needs emotional support.
That's a reflection of them, though, not you. But, yes, it is difficult to navigate that, especially when it is clear to you but not others.
Is there a solution? Possibly, but I think it involves either finding someone else,or accepting "their limit" for what it is and avoiding that aspect of the relationship. Neither is a great option and it comes down to which problem you want to deal with, unfortunately.