Write down what you want, your goals... everything
Then sit with him and tell him this is what you want and because things are not going too well currently. You're not fighting, but you can't continue down this path, so here is your solution. Hopefully he is going to be willing and listen, also ask for his input and solutions. He can hop on board or you can do it without him.
Maybe business mode with a touch of love will help.

You have to have a change before it kills you.