Hi poshgirl. I had a long conversation with all the hard truths with my husband and that taking his mother to the wedding has far more negatives than positives. He agreed, explained to his mother and it was decided she would not go and we’d video it for her. I thought it was settled. Then this past weekend my husband completely reversed his decision stating he did not feel it was right to not take his mother and he was going to do it in spite of our previous discussion. I was very disappointed to hear this. I think his mother guilted him into changing his mind. She is a very self centered old woman. This is further complicated by the fact that my husband helped me a lot during my own terrible struggle with my alcoholic mother. He was the only one who stood by me. So I feel like I have to go and be there for him with his decision to take his mother. Even though I know this is a bad decision. I’ did tell my husband initially that he can take her by himself and handle it. But I thought that would not be right of me either. And the bride is a cheapskate who will not pay for medical assistants or anything. I think the whole group would be fine if granny was not there. But this has come down to a situation of granny whining like a baby to my husband and my husband caving out of guilt. This is tough.