I have part of your problem. My H has a lot more interest in sex than I do. Unfortunately his interest doesn't alway enable him to perform even for his own gratification forget about mine. Either he is upset because he wants it and I don't, or he is upset because he gets it and then is unable to perform, or I get frustrated because I feel like either way I'm just a humping doll. I am in a no win situation. No matter what the out come is one or both of us is left frustrated.

Keebler it is good that you are still looking for ways to bring things back. I hope you can find something that works for you.