Hi Vetswife,

I've read "The Explosive Child" and that was a good one but it's difficult when you're going through it every day.

Before my son was medicated, his rages would last anywhere from 30 minutes to longer than an hour. I'm not talking tantrums....full blown screaming, crying, throwing things, hitting, spitting, breaking things, etc. and this was all from the time he was 2 yrs old. I've video taped one and that one was a mild one.

What we've found out for our boy was that we'd have to use different child management techniques for different days or even within the same day, both discipline or reward systems have to be altered because he's just like that. Sticker charts are great or even those small name tag stickers you can stick on her shirt where you place a mini sticker for EVERY good behavior she's doing(focus on the positive behaviors and reward those), then get cheap rewards to reinforce any behaviors you want to see more of....could be anything from pieces of candy to cheap little toys.....Oriental Trading Co online has many cheap stuff to order or you could use snacks/popsicles, even buy packs of party favors and mix them up for her to choose on per so many stickers or within the day.

Good luck...this is what works for us(coming from a mom who's seen it all) lol