My problem - and i admit it is a problem - is that i dont do "polite" very well. If something turns me off - which is usually but not always that a person does something that reminds me of myself! - i retract into my turtle shell. This is why half the members have me on ignore, its okay, i deserve it.

Otoh, i get all gushy with somebody, then i disappear. I do that IRL too. Its like i cant tolerate too much closeness.