There's an issue gnawing at me about new guy.

It's been a month of seeing each other every weekend. We've been having a lot of fun, going on lots of different kinds of adventures.

This weekend, we have a getaway out of town. We have a hotel overnight, we're going to the beaches out of state, and a double band show tonight out of state.

The one caveat is he has adult kids living at home and he hasn't told them about me yet, nor have I met them yet, and nor have I to visit him in his home. He has always come to my home.

He is concerned about their reaction or possible over-reaction to news about me. I am the first woman he has dated since their mother passed away - his ex - over a year and a half ago. They had broken up before she passed away, a year beforehand, but still, he is very sensitive to her kids' feelings. And because 3 of her adult kids currently live with him, he is very concerned and very careful.

I told him last weekend how I feel. I said I want to be able to visit him at his home at some stage soon to make things more equal between us. But it's a touchy situation given the situation I just described.

He calls it a "failure to launch" - he wants the 3 adult kids out and told them he is selling his home in a year. They now know they must get jobs and move out. Only 1 of the 3 adult kids is working. The other two do nothing, he tells me. They don't work and they don't contribute to the household chores.

I get it that it would feel awkward for me to be hanging around the house on a weekend when these 3 adult kids are all home. I think it would be awkward for everyone.

But I don't know what to do. Keep having him come to my home every weekend? That feels unfair to me - this means I am always hosting, which involves making sure my home is always clean, that the sheets are washed, and that I have enough food and drinks in my home for both of us.

I also have been planning every weekend we've been together. Hosting also has involved me being the one in charge of our weekend plans - where we go, where we eat, what we do. So I have made ALL our plans each weekend, including this weekend getaway.

I need to talk to him about this over the weekend and likely tomorrow after our fun night. I don't want to always be in charge of plans. I don't always want to host him at my home.

This is going to grow old soon.. but it's also only been one month of dating, and we don't know yet if this will turn into something longer-term and more serious... what do I say about this? I know I need to talk to him, but what do I say?