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Old Aug 11, 2025, 09:01 AM
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Originally Posted by Bill3 View Post
A month isn’t a very long time.

Still, if he is interested enough to see you every weekend, maybe one of these weekends he could invite you over for dinner, just for dinner, to meet people.

Why can’t he plan the activities half of the time? What does that have to do with who is hosting?
@Bill3, you're right, a month isn't very long. He could invite me over for dinner, though that's a 2.5 hour round trip drive for me just for dinner.

He could plan activities, and that's my point. Just because I'm hosting doesn't mean I have to plan every weekend, but that's how it's been. I mention a band I'm seeing, and he's like, oh, I'll join you, or I invite him along to see a band. Or, I tell him I want to go to the beach next weekend, and he's like, ok, great, let's go!

Maybe he's not a planner. I noticed this weekend that he left all decisions up to me. Where we ate, when we ate, if we left the beach, if we left the band early, when we headed home. Everything was my decision. Maybe he's just very easy going and goes with the flow, or maybe he doesn't like to. make decisions or plan very well. I don't know yet.
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