> i just want to take him home and give him hugs and make him happy.

I think that giving him hugs as much as you can is good.

The mother could probably use some hugs too -- but she might attack anyone suggesting that sort of thing -- she probably believes that any offered comfort is a delusion and a trick. Still it needs to be done, only in a way that takes into account her fears.

Not easy. Needs to be done.