Brian,

Therapist C sounds problematic before starting.

I do not believe that finding a male therapist equals no transference issues. Maybe you need a therapist who is able to help you manage the transference better? Maybe the last T didn't have enough confidence or training in that arena. Keep trying and don't give up on all female T's. But when you are interviewing, tell them the issue and see if it is problematic for them. Just keep everything out in the open.

Ps Sometimes we have to pay out of pocket for things we really need.

(((((Brian)))))