
Aug 17, 2025, 12:32 PM
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Desert Kitty hates titles
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Member Since: Jul 2008
Location: TARDIS
Posts: 12,808
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Originally Posted by Fairy Fountain
@ nonightowl Thank you. The username comes from the video game The Legend of Zelda. The fairy fountain theme music is one of my favorites.
You're right about the forced positivity that gets thrown around everywhere. I think this is one of the reasons why I've become more anxious to be around other people. It's almost as if everyone wants you to play a happy character. I agree that basic kindness and respect should be valued, and I try not to be disrespectful to other people. But it never made sense to me that certain emotions (anger, sadness etc.) are seen as so terrible that it should be suppressed. It all just leads to more unhappiness. If it's mixed with isolation, people will begin to feel hopeless and bitter.
Sorry about that man cutting you off and your troubles with fitting in at the senior center. There have been times when I was told that I was being too negative, or where people have cut me out of their lives. Sometimes it helps to talk about the negative things in life instead of pretending they don't exist.
Life has definitely changed after covid. I remember watching music videos from the early 2000s or even movies from that time. Even the 90s and 80s. I know people say to not romanticize the past, and I understand that at times. But it's hard not to. There was something to look forward to back then. Now everything feels deserted. People have become more rude, too.
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I read a couple of books about this eternal optimism in this country, and the positive thinking crap. It's deeply embedded, going back centuries. "Negative" things or thoughts are just part of being human, and it's healthier to accept and acknowledge that. It's better than trying to suppress it and smile through it, "looking on the bright side". Sometimes there is no bright side but people insist there is.
That's why I keep things to myself mostly, except on here and for one real life friend. Crimminy, I can't even say something bad about the weather. I get lectured about how it could be worse, or I should be "grateful" I'm here. That's like reliving my childhood. I don't need that.
Yes, people are ruder than ever; I thought it was just me who thought that. They don't respond to anything either. Or ghost me. I have to follow up but now I don't do it anymore. If they really want to contact me, they know where to find me.
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