It seems that this relationship has come to an end. From reading your post, what I see is that you overvalue systems of typology, from completely bogus (astrology) to those of questionable validity, especially when used by lay people (attachment styles, diagnosing). I think you will be far happier in your next relationships if you jettison those systems, all of them, and use plain English words that describe feelings, wants, hurts, disappointments, aspirations, desires, dreams, etc. And to your main question - yes, you can reach out to him now, but, as wisely said above, not from the place of desperation, and, in plain English, without attaching diagnostic labels or referencing the position of the stars, try to express yourself and touch his heart. If he doesn't have a warm and kind reaction to your reach out, you will know that you have done everything in your power and you will received closure and finality for yourself, an asset that will help you navigate your life through subsequent steps.

Another thing that struck me from reading the OP was how unexpected the mentions of love were when I got to them. Maybe it is the cognitive dissonance between the very dry and remote language of attachment style classification and then the sudden mention of love, or maybe it is because I would not call the relationship as you describe it a loving one, and by that I mean from both ends.