I never loose my cool with my kids I am always in control. I let them know I'm upset with them and that seems to bother them. They all worry about if I am mad at them (that is what the strange thing is). They will misbehave but yet they worry if I am mad at them or not. Part of the problem is that I work at home and it's really hard to get any work done when I have to get up ever 5 min and I know consistency is the key. A lot of times I resort to yelling which has little to no effect just gives me a headache. Lately I've been applying positive reinforcement not with material things but with an over exaggeration of hugs, kisses and acknowledgements, if this doesn't work I'll try the prizes. All my children seem to want to please me. I guess now it's just a wait and see game. I can't thank everyone enough for all your suggestions they all are great ideas, the most common one being possitive reinforcement, I hope it works my fingers are crossed.